The Starbucks at Woodgrove Chapters, 6650 Mary Ellen Dr in Nanaimo, opens at 6 AM for early risers. Dale Smith likes to arrive early to secure his usual spot before everyone else arrives and the conversation begins.
Smith is retired, having spent many years working as a stevedore, loading cargo ships from around the world and for the last 10 years, this cafe has been an integral part of this daily routine, “It’s really, really important. I spend three to four hours here,” Smith said.
Over time, Smith and a group of others who frequent the cafe in the early morning hours have formed a tight-knit community. The numbers fluctuate, but there can be as many as 15 people gathered around the tables, talking, laughing, and inviting newcomers to join them.
One of those regulars, Tricia Anderson, said that the group has become a significant part of her routine. “I moved here a year ago and I didn’t really know anyone,” she said. “Everyone here is so friendly. You can sit down and someone will start talking to you and asking questions. It makes a big difference.”
“There are a lot of people who are lonely,” Smith said, sharing a story about an individual who was having a hard time making connections after a serious accident. He was hesitant to join, but eventually, his daughter asked if he could come and sit with the group.
“I said ‘Just tell him to come down by the fireplace. You’ll see a group. Just come in and join us.’”
Making new friends, especially later in life, can be hard. For many older adults, building new friendships can be especially challenging after retirement or major life changes like a health crisis,. Experts say that good connections start with intention and putting yourself in shared spaces.
If you’re not sure where to start, the David Suzuki Foundation outlines simple ways to build community, like regularly showing up in shared spaces and making small consistent efforts to connect. For Smith, Anderson, and other regulars, that’s exactly what happens each morning at the café, a space where familiarity has turned into lasting friendships.
Looking for local events on Nanaimo community boards (like the one in this café), and online listings that regularly promote gathering and activities, offers other outlets.
Smith said these friendships felt stronger than others due to the time and the intention he put into them. “This stage of my life is relaxed. I just sit back and enjoy the people who come around.”
Smith said the staff also feel like family. They remember their names and orders, and stop by the table to chat. The manager, Kaylee Gallagher, “doesn’t mind coming and mingling, which is important to us because then we know we’re… thought of.”
Gallagher said, “When employees feel respected and heard, they’re better able to extend that same care and inclusivity to our customers.” She has watched the early-morning regulars, and said it is “more than just a place to grab coffee. It becomes a place where they feel seen and welcomed.”
Smith said creating this kind of community is a lot harder for younger people navigating today’s busy world, but it’s small rituals like meeting with friends face to face on a regular basis, in a reliable place, that creates trust and belonging.
